tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5918025173961472947.post6770393823143939601..comments2023-05-05T05:35:18.051-05:00Comments on Her Property: Case for the Professional Dominatrixjoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09047584281612230775noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5918025173961472947.post-66847656678442131452008-06-01T07:35:00.000-05:002008-06-01T07:35:00.000-05:00Joe......great blog. Do not give up your dreams !!...Joe......great blog. Do not give up your dreams !!!!!!!!<BR/>For 35 years in my first marriage I tried to sublimate my needs to those of a vanilla wife. It finally became too much.<BR/><BR/>At 57 I found a woman 19 years younger who, while not a dominant, said to me, "if this is what you need, I will give it to you. In return, you will service me in any way I wish."<BR/><BR/>Ten years later, and after menopause, she no longer is interested in much sex so the nature of the relationship has changed. I am now in chastity most of the time and am disciplined when needed or spanked once a week or so to keep me focused on her needs.<BR/><BR/>Last week, while she was out shopping I masturbated and the following resulted (taken from a blog to which I posted):If I am to receive a punishment whipping (and this is infrequent) my Wife has had me modify our stand-alone butcher block so that i may be tied over it. i am put in wrist and ankle cuffs with short ropes attached which are tied to the underside of the block. i am bent over from the waist and, when tied, can barely touch the floor with my feet. i am then gagged (no safe word, of course) and she will then whip me for upwards of an hour, with some short breaks. Before the punishment i have had to lay out all of the instruments(canes, paddles, whips, etc.) on a table next to the block. When She is finished I am made to sit on a coco door mat for half an hour while i recover. i am restrained because i could never hold still for this type of whipping and She doesn't want to have to deal with me jumping around.<BR/><BR/>The most amazing part though is that this week she has told me to make an appointment with a professional disciplinarian whom we have used on occasion when she just doesn't feel like she can give me what I crave. Is there sex involved, no way, I am in a CB 6000. Is it sexual, of course.<BR/><BR/>My point is all of this is that you can find the relationship you need. You just must be totally honest with whomever you are dating.<BR/><BR/>Good luck,<BR/><BR/>leighAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5918025173961472947.post-70983443355191506382008-05-31T22:37:00.000-05:002008-05-31T22:37:00.000-05:00There is something very personal about that need t...There is something very personal about that need to submit to someone. A professional service would meet that need within the right context and environment. I see nothing wrong with this at all if you are unable to find a woman who is interested in moving into the sort of relationship you truly want. <BR/><BR/>Hugs<BR/>MinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5918025173961472947.post-88358759711300004222008-05-30T15:17:00.000-05:002008-05-30T15:17:00.000-05:00"Here's my question: what is wrong with the idea o..."Here's my question: what is wrong with the idea of paying for sex?"<BR/><BR/>I have to say this. If a woman or man is willing and able to offer a service that involves the use of their own body in any way they want they should be allowed and if you are interested then go for it. <BR/><BR/>I don't care if it is installing your flooring, cleaning your bathtub, weilding a whip, or allowing you to slip inside their warm and welcoming body. It is their body, their labor and they have control. <BR/><BR/>I don't believe someone else's judgements about what is right or wrong should apply. If you feel it is right for you... then do it.<BR/><BR/>That said, I believe you will have a very hard time finding the perfect combination of vanilla woman who is open to this idea. But I also believe anything is possible. I don't think anyone who met me would ever know at first glance all that I enjoy and want on a personal and sexual level. <BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>HoneyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5918025173961472947.post-26219313948924787682008-05-30T14:03:00.000-05:002008-05-30T14:03:00.000-05:00"Conceptually I do understand that professional do..."Conceptually I do understand that professional dominatrices are not prostitutes. Yet realistically I know I have always considered paying for the services of one to be on the same level of paying for sex. Perhaps this is something I need a new perspective on."<BR/><BR/>Hmmm. Paying for sex is paying for sex is paying for sex. You can wrap it up in a pretty package, and say it's not really intercourse, and such things....but that doesn't really change the gist of what is going on. To be honest, I've always felt like a lot of sex work is more about companionship and intimacy than it is about genitals. Here's my question: what is wrong with the idea of paying for sex?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07871193564059170815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5918025173961472947.post-64086736330858510922008-05-30T13:55:00.000-05:002008-05-30T13:55:00.000-05:00Joe,(Yet another) Interesting post. Yours is one o...Joe,<BR/><BR/>(Yet another) Interesting post. Yours is one of the most introspective, thoughtful blogs on the subject I've found. Thanks for that.<BR/><BR/>I guess that any woman willing to accept your visiting a dominatrix to fulfill this you have need would either (1) be virtually nonexistent, or (2) be willing to fill that need herself.<BR/><BR/>That is, I guess most women struggle to understand the itch itself, not the mode for scratching it.<BR/><BR/>If I'm right, you're probably better off continuing your search for a woman "with the total package"...and using a professional in the meantime.shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02177277829738299811noreply@blogger.com